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What do I have?

Sara Moser3 Comments

The last two years have brought many changes in my life. I got out of an unhealthy relationship,  moved, my two youngest offspring left home, and  I am now sharing daily life with the man of my dreams.  The only thing that didn’t really change during this time has been my job. I have been at it for nearly 5 years, and have been very thankful for the security and regularity it has provided during all these transitions.

I set some intentions relative to how and where I would live, and they have manifested in amazing ways. Yet I find myself continuing to ask myself “What do I really want?” This morning as I found myself pondering, I decided to focus instead on what I already have.

Peace.    I have been on a search for peace for years. I tried to find it through religion, friendships, moving from one relationship to another, but none of this worked.  I finally learned that I was looking outside myself for peace. Even expecting GOD to provide internal peace when I kept looking for people to make me happy didn’t work. While I was still married, I went to Al-anon meetings, and that program was the first place that I learned that I needed to take care of myself. I finally  became strong enough to make healthier decisions for me, as in getting a divorce instead of holding on to a fantasy.  Re-examining my beliefs about God, religion, and spirituality and beginning to meditate daily has led to the most peace I have known in my life – because I have found it within, instead of expecting it from outside myself.

“The world around us will never be peaceful until we ourselves are at PEACE WITHIN. If we are fighting and angry on the inside we will never experience the opposite on the outside.”
― Angie Karan Krezos

Love.   The greatest thing in life is to give and receive love. Without doubt, I have always been loved – I had a good upbringing with loving parents, have been in love relationships, and have had the love of my children, which I would have to say is the most special of all. I have generally taken care of myself, but until I began in earnest a quest for enlightenment, didn’t realize that I hadn’t been truly loving myself, which had the effect of an inability to give love unselfishly. Unselfish love doesn’t demand anything in return, yet attracts lovingkindness.

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”  ― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Freedom.   When I focused on the chaos around me and in me, I attracted chaos.As I learned that peace and love had to begin with me, I began to attracted peaceful and loving people into my life.  As my life changed, and I disentangled myself from that which didn’t serve me well, I began to experience a buoyancy of spirit. I also did something I’d wanted to do for a long time – divested myself of homeownership along with numerous possessions and embraced a more minimalistic lifestyle. This lightness of spirit plus minimalism has led to a sense of freedom that I’ve never known. I must add here that the fact that my 7 children don’t live with me anymore also contributes to that sense of freedom.

“Lock up your libraries if you like; but there is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind.” ― Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own

As I ponder these ideas, I am thankful for every step of the journey that has brought me to HERE.  A huge life lesson is to learn to live without regrets, whether it be about how I failed my children, or wasn’t able to stay married, or wasted money. All those things were part of what I was supposed to learn. I have no doubt that I have more lessons ahead of me. I plan to meet whatever challenges lie ahead with peace, love, and hope.

 

 

 

 

 

Apology to my sink – daily prompt

Sara Moser1 Comment

Wronged Objects – the question being, what inanimate object might I want to apologize to?

This is really a funny question, and I almost passed it by, but couldn’t quit thinking about it.

I would have to say that the most abused object that I use regularly is my bathroom sink. I put grime from my face and hands in it regularly and spit out all kinds of gore into it. I’m always dropping hair in it, endangering its poor drain.

Probably the worst thing is my laziness when it comes to cleaning it. You’d think with all that water going into it it would just be clean. But no – it has to be scrubbed.

Sorry, Sink!

On Blogging

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As I fretted about my habit of going to a paying job rather than staying home writing all day, I had an encouraging email show up in my inbox.

I sign up for a lot of lists, then unsubscribe to most of them after they bombard me with their too-frequent sales pitch emails. But this one, I welcome. Maybe partly because I met the author in person, at a social meetup, not too long after I started this blog and was really wondering what I was doing and should I continue, but mostly because I think she has something valid to say and is lowkey and friendly in her approach.

I’ve only met Anne Bechard a couple of times, but she seems like a friend. I hope to be able to talk with her soon (maybe after the holidays), over a glass of wine or dinner, and find out what makes her tick, and hear more about her passion. Word in the street is that she’s writing a book, and I am looking forward to reading it.

Anne’s website is Story Maverick, and she’s got some great information and tips there, especially for beginner bloggers like me. Check it out. She didn’t ask me to promote her and there’s nothing in it for me, just want to share some good information and help everyone out.

She got my attention with this subject line: How to get action on your blog while you work your day job. Just what I needed! (Refer back to my first sentence!)

Here’s a little of what she said:

Let’s face it — whether you go to an office or not, you’ve got a full-time life. And the details never seem to stop. You only have a small window for blogging. But try as you might, no one seems to be reading what you publish.

I’ve been there. It’s discouraging, frustrating, and, ok, embarrassing. But it doesn’t have to be. There really are ways to use your time efficiently when you blog so that once you hit the publish key, people will actually read what you wrote.

Big reveal:
You need a blueprint to sharpen your focus toward your readers while you blog.

Here’s how:
Engage your readers with your unique voice, authenticity, and specific calls to action.

You’re the only one who can tell your story. Sure, we’re not reinventing the wheel here. But seriously — no one says it like you do. When you write in your own unique voice, you share your story more authentically. This is how you persuade and influence your readers to follow through with your specific call to action — whether that’s asking them to comment, or share, or retweet.

Your time is precious. Blogging is a priority for you — but only if you’re getting the results you want. Using a blueprint that focuses on your readers helps you engage your audience with the real you.

She’s got my attention! And I am looking forward to the next email I get from her.